http://www.blogigo.com/the_trance - Believe it you can reach it - en salwa_msy salwa_msy Sat, 17 Mar 2007 12:50:38 +0100 daily 1 it was a good start earlier in the morning... approaching afternoon, things were started to get messy... later that day,,,I couldn't hold myself and almost got into corel with 'him' i'm a kind of person who don't normally like to get corel with anybody. at most, i become silent and kind of ignoring him. but once i got angry, it can blows up so badly. i do and try so badly not to get into this situation. i hate when people underestimate my talent, ability and skills. to sum up, i'm not in a good mood at this moment,,,,not at all.... ,,,a simple message from the bottom of my heart,,, Sat, 17 Mar 2007 12:50:38 +0100 http://www.blogigo.com/the_trance/the-feeling/5/ http://www.blogigo.com/the_trance/the-feeling/5/ Yesterday, I had an interesting conversation with my colleauge concerning "the paradigm". Hmmm....sounds like a heavy topic, isn't??? well....that depends on how you see it, i.e. your paradigm...  In the beginning, i asked him if he was still active as the alumni of ESQ (a.k.a mind's training i would say ;-) he then told me that he is. He then started to talk more about it as well as other trainings such as the training for Praying Concentration, Tung Desem Waringin, JRP, Anthony Robins etc. In the middle of our conversation, I said, "if we want to join that kind of training, our paradigm has to be set as the trainer's paradigm. That way, we could then understand what is being transformed and later accept that 'theory'. That's why, although I'm willing to hear others' paradigm, I may or may not agree with theirs. My friend disagreed,,,He then said that you don't have to alter your paradigm. Yours is yours and the trainers... Thu, 15 Mar 2007 07:21:05 +0100 http://www.blogigo.com/the_trance/Paradigm-paradigm/4/ http://www.blogigo.com/the_trance/Paradigm-paradigm/4/ ladies and gents...!!! always remember to be grateful to what you have, what you owned and what you have achieved in life. Not everyone has exactly the same path of life as you have. Think about it...!!! You might be luckier than your friends or neighbours. pay attention to the unfortunates so that you know how to be grateful and how to respect life the way it should be. well,,,this is just another thought of mine to kind of make me feel better today ^^^ Have a Nice Day Everybody ^^^   Wed, 14 Mar 2007 08:47:00 +0100 http://www.blogigo.com/the_trance/bE-gRaTeFuL/3/ http://www.blogigo.com/the_trance/bE-gRaTeFuL/3/   Tonight, as I listened to the dialogue held on the Islamic Online, I started to wander of my own choice in wearing hijab  I started to think of the first time I was wearing it. Did I choose to wear it myself, or was my parent push me? No…none of them actually. Let me tell you my story briefly.   I was born in Jeddah, Saudi Arabia, 24 years ago. I joined the Indonesian School for my kindergarten till my junior high. I remembered when I was in the fifth grade; I saw my seniors were wearing hijab at school. Later on, my friend asked me to start wearing one. Just because of their request, I started to wear it although I did not wear it properly; in a sense that I wore hijab but with a short-sleeve skirt. I didn’t know exactly why I had to wear it, nor that was I curious to ask. All I know at that time that it was a kind of norm for all female students to wear hijab closing to their final grade in primary school. So, there was me, standing there with my hijab on   ... Tue, 13 Mar 2007 15:13:00 +0100 http://www.blogigo.com/the_trance/hijab-why-debate-it/2/ http://www.blogigo.com/the_trance/hijab-why-debate-it/2/ Covey talks about the importance of speaking and listening as forms of communication. Especially with the listening, here, he didn’t mean a regular listening, instead, an empathic listening. It is listening with the intention to understand rather than to reply. In most cases, when a person talks to you, a logic step would be for you to reply. However in this habit, Covey emphasized the need of understanding others (the need to diagnose before prescribe) before he or she could response – to reply, to repeat or simply to listen.   What is interesing is the way Covey divided listening into four levels, which I sometimes use, unconsciously, depending on the situation and the type of story that is being told. Empathic listening goes beyond a mere technique. It is neither active nor reflective listening. It is the ability to seek to understand what the person is saying by understanding his paradigm and to understand his feeling.   A new term introduced by... Tue, 13 Mar 2007 09:48:08 +0100 http://www.blogigo.com/the_trance/Seek-first-understand-then-understood/1/ http://www.blogigo.com/the_trance/Seek-first-understand-then-understood/1/