Sep 23, 2016 at 21:17 o\clock



Staff Writer

Jamye Waxman's parents know what she does for a living.

There is no shame, no scarlet letter emblazoned on her forehead.

For Waxman, a sexologist, writer and producer with a master's

degree in sex education from Widener University in Pennsylvania, being a

woman in the adult-film industry offers her a position of power, and

with that, the power to influence in a positive, respectable way.

"As more women infiltrate the industry and show they want to

be there, the more positive the product will be," Waxman said.

"There's all these things that adult films can offer you if

you don't look too deeply into it."

Increasingly within the adult-film industry, triple-X means more

women like Waxman are calling the shots.

They are creating Web sites with adult content, reporting stories

and jumping from being performer to writer, cinematographer to director

or producer, industry experts say.

And more women are viewing or buying pornography, taking advantage

of the movies and merchandise offered on cable TV, the Internet and

specialty stores.

'Giving permission'

"We're definitely seeing more women and couples buying

and watching adult films," said Anne Semans, spokeswoman for

Babeland, an adult boutique that includes shops on Melrose Avenue that

was founded, owned, operated by and geared toward women.

"I think a lot of it is women giving themselves permission to

watch porn. Women have been told for many years that they are not

supposed to watch anything stimulating."

Industry experts can offer only anecdotal evidence on how many

women are among the estimated 40 million people who view Internet porn

each month, or how many purchase films from the more than 15,000 outlets

that sell the movies.

"No one has done a full-blown market research of any kind into

either the brick-and-mortar or the online adult consumer market

place," said Tom Hymes, publisher of XBiz, a trade magazine about

the industry.

"My own personal feeling of this is most (consumers) are still

men, but I have seen more women coming into the industry to make content

for other women, to build Web sites for women. The issue of women being

creative and significant in the industry is not going away."

One of those most credited with paving the way is Candida Royalle,

who during the 1970s starred in 25 adult films, including "Blue

Magic," which she also wrote.

After some soul-searching about being involved in a business some

still view as deviant, Royalle concluded she wanted to be part of a

movement that would change the negative stereotypes of adult films.

What she envisioned was what she calls sexually explicit erotica from a woman's point of view, stories couples could watch together.

"Women are not the shy flowers that people think they

are," Royalle said. "They want to watch sex, but they want to

see it done well. I wanted to foster that."

Praise for her films

Her catalogue of self-produced and -directed films includes

"Caribbean Heat," "The Bridal Shower" and her

latest, "Under the Covers."

Royalle acknowledges her life path is anything but typical. The

daughter of an accomplished jazz drummer, she trained and performed in

music, dance and art. She was active in the feminist movement of the

1960s and early '70s.

Her films have been praised by sex educators and mainstream film

reviewers, and Royalle is a member of the American Association of Sex

Educators, Counselors and Therapists and a founding board member of

Feminists for Free Expression.

Yet she remains somewhat critical of the direction adult films have

taken in the past few years. Thirty years ago, women in adult films

fought for equality. These days, equality equals vulgarity, she said.

"I get frustrated by the cookie-cutter images, the lack of

diversity," she said. "In the porn industry these days, beauty

is even more exaggerated, and it's about time that changes."

That's why she tries to feature women in her films of

"all shapes and sizes" and from a diverse background.

"We just need more women to come in and offer more alternate

visions," Royalle said. "We need something else other than the

slut image. We need real women, with real bodies and real stories."

What women want to watch varies, just as women themselves do, said

Royalle and others. Their tastes range from the quick-hit scenarios men

enjoy to more sophisticated productions, complete with costumes,

storyline, dialogue, hunky males and plot.

"People like Candida Royalle and other female directors

started making films more for the taste of what women wanted to see, and

one of those was seeing attractive men," Semans said.

"Storylines are definitely a big part of it because women like more

foreplay, or a good yarn."

Others want to be entertained while they learn new ways of giving


"I think women's demands are growing," said Waxman,

who co-wrote and produced her first major adult film, "Under the

Covers," with Royalle, who has found a whole market niche of women

and couples who want how-to sex videos.

"We saw a big burst with (HBO's series) 'Sex and the

City,'" she said. "The more there are options for women,

the more women are comfortable in watching."

She recently completed shooting "Personal Touch" in Los

Angeles and Northridge for Adam & Eve Productions.

"One of the reasons I want to make adult movies is I feel like

we're in a distorted state of what sex is," Waxman said.

"When you go to school, you learn a little bit about sexuality, but

where you see people doing it is porn. Porn is the teaching tool that is

getting - Jenni Lee - out there."

But not all those messages in porn have been positive for men or

women, said Waxman, who credits Royalle and Nina Hartley for helping to

change women's roles in the adult-film industry.

"If we want to accurately portray positive sexuality, we can

do something about it," she said. "I can only make films I am

comfortable with."

That includes banning stiletto heels for her actresses, preferring

that they wear socks, and hiring performers with or without breast


"These are the small kinds of things that women are much more

attentive to, which is what people are wearing," she said.

Waxman also said she believes the industry can go further in

protecting women and children by raising the minimum age of actors to 21

-- it's now 18 -- and better monitoring what can be accessed by

children on the Internet.

For adults, VCRs and the Internet have expanded the opportunities

for anyone to create sexual content, but Semans said she believes

viewers are getting burned out on the low quality of today's films.

"Now we're seeing the pendulum swing back, because

there's more of a demand for quality," she said.

"What's interesting to me is what's selling, and those

are films that are award-winning."

For women, watching sexually explicit movies is a whole different

experience, Semans said, which is why the boutique's Web site

features a lengthy guide of carefully selected films. What the site

won't include are any films in which anyone is violated or hurt.

"Getting introduced to porn," she said, "is a

critical turning point for many women."

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(color) Britt Rubin, manager of the Babeland Adult Store, holds

"Neu Wave Hookers," one of the more popular adult movies

favored by women at the store located on Melrose Avenue. The store,

owned by a woman, sells top-selling DVDs produced and directed by women

for women.

John Lazar/Staff Photographer

Sep 14, 2016 at 10:42 o\clock

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Sep 2, 2016 at 05:23 o\clock

How to raise boys to be good men

Story highlightsSusan Bodnar: Boys who make the news for bad behavior can come to symbolize all malesBut we hear less about quieter boys who aren't part of such a caricature, Bodnar saysParents can help boys become men with discipline and dialogue, she says

Boys do what they are taught. They become what they see. Unfortunately, from mid to late adolescence boys face an array of bad, sexy guy images.

Upsetting stories about boys' sexual aggression, such as the allegations of rape in Steubenville and Maryville, continue to surface.

These boys who make the news become symbolic of all males. We hear less from the other quieter boys, though they constitute a majority.

In the privacy of a psychologist's office such as mine, however, many boys admit to longing for that "miraculous feeling when you hold someone special's hand for the first time."

Boys, like girls, have complicated feelings. They struggle with their identities. They have no idea how to approach females. The anything goes sexual mores of teen sexuality create pressure to perform as well as pressure not to violate.

Researchers have found that the more your son sees explicitly aggressive sexual behavior, the more his patterns of stimulation will be geared to such imagery. He will internalize these images as patterns. He will eventually be inclined to act upon them.

Those who perpetuate images of aggressive male sexuality do not get held accountable, but if your son gets caught in these acts, he could go to jail.

So what is the best - sexy mature sex videos - way to raise a boy who has old-fashioned values?

It requires dialogue and discipline.

First, validate sexuality's confusing nature.

"Where do you draw the line?" asked 15-year-old Tom. "I've been broken up with for not kissing a girl. But if I kiss her too soon, what if she feels taken advantage of or hurt?"

The blurry line between when to act on sexual feelings and when not to can make it hard for a boy to know what to do, especially when alcohol is added to the mix.

Anxiety, however, slows people down.

Learning to manage anxiety helps a boy develop confidence in himself. He learns how to listen to what he feels. That enables him to hear others. He then develops good judgment about how to manage the delicate balance between sexual impulse and sexual actions.

Second, remain firmly opposed to underage drinking. Do not allow him to attend unsupervised parties. Share articles about how alcohol affects the growing brain and discuss its disinhibiting effects.

Alcohol and drugs obliterate the anxiety that can become the building block of character. They make it impossible to discover the unwritten rules between two people who feel attracted to one another. They make it impossible to define the small personal steps toward genuine intimacy.

Sixteen-year-old Evan said, "When kids get together and drink, everybody expects some kind of sexual behavior. "

Kids jump from novices to lotharios without first learning how to be in a relationship. Sexual interactions become a faceless dance.

Third, advise your son not to have virtual or real sexual contact with someone he doesn't know well.

Encourage your son to avoid sending any pictures of his body using social media. No sexting. No oral sex parties. They should not have sexual contact with someone with whom they have not shared a meal.

Instead, talk to your son about the fun and excitement of getting to know someone. Share happy and embarrassing stories from your dating life.

Gay and straight young men will and should have sexual relationships. Physical intimacy can provoke unexpected and complicated feelings. Sexuality between consenting adults can be powerfully expressive, but a person has to be mature enough to handle the intensity.

Intimacy takes time to happen, and everyone makes mistakes. Sometimes they also figure it out. This happens far more often than the sexual aggression that makes the news.

Ron, now a college student, said he learned romance from novels. Small for his age, he fell out of the crowd of boys who started drinking and making comments about girls and their bodies.

By the time he became a senior in high school he had grown bigger and looked more manlike.

In the fall he found himself attracted to an 11th-grade girl. He talked with her. He got to know her. They talked some more.

And by December they were still talking.

He remembered, "Our school was about to break for Christmas. We stood at the corner talking about going away with our families. I took her hand for just one minute and I kissed her right on the mouth. And then, it started to snow, wild flurries everywhere. Not really. But that's how it felt."

Ron and his girlfriend dated all year. They remain very close.

With love and support, some kids still find the mistletoe.