Hiding The Truth
Mood: Thoughtful
Listening to: TV
Why do parents keep their children away from the truth?
There are parents out there who would rather their children think that HIV/AIDS doesn't exsist.They'd rather their children focus on not getting pregnant.So many parents keep their children out of sex ed classes because they are afraid of what they may learn.These parents are only harming their children.
I can remember a time when my best friend and I would talk about sex and the shows we watched on TV the night before and our other friends would look at us as though we had lost our minds.Their parents didn't allow them to watch anything with profanity or a mild sex scene.What I could never understand is why they didn't want their children to watch it with them and then explain what they were watching rather than have their friends who may or may not have their facts straight teach your child everything that they know.
I don't understand the fear that parents have when real life comes into play.I don't understand why parents would want their children to be so ignorant to the world and everything that is going on around them.
My parents hid nothing from me and I am a 20 year old college student working on my degree in Psychology,I don't have a child on my hip,and I don't have a man manipulating me.When you hold my life up next to the now adults who grew up with me but were never in the know I'd say some of them got the short end of the stick.So again I ask:
Why do parents keep their children away from the truth?
Parents always try to protect, but they fail to listen to what they know already - and that is that the truth cannot hurt anyone. It is what it is.
By hiding the truth, parents see their kids as less than perfect and actually take their power from them. So while trying to protect, they actually diminish the very thing they are so willing to die for.
Fear-based religion is widely accepted as truth, and the modern competitive adversarial world in which we live tells us that this fear is a neccessary part of 'coping'.
When the parents themselves realise that their kids are far more resilient and strong than they could ever be, they will hopefully start to drop the crap that they dish out. Unfortunately these people need to uncover their own truths before they can share it with others - otherwise it is too painful and we try to protect our own pain by shielding others from it. Who are we to pretend to know what another can cope with??? False pride, fear and the need to feel like a protector to feel whole are the reasons that parents do what they do.
Remember also, that they are just people too, who would never knowingly harm their own children. It's like suffocating your child to death because you hold on tho them so tight.
Be gentle with them and show them through your actions, how to speak the truth. You can never tell them.