A Penny For Thought

May 26, 2007 at 06:24 o\clock

Where Is The Romance?

So I've been sitting around thinking about dating and what would be the best place for a date but I've yet to come up with anything.When men ask women out on dates where do they go? The beach, to dinner, the movies, bowling,etc. But all of that has been done and there is nothing romantic about that any more (if it has ever been romantic at all).Where is the originality and most of all where is the romance?


-Tell me about the most romantic date you've ever been on. 

Dec 25, 2006 at 08:01 o\clock

Happy Holidays

Happy Holidays everyone!I hope that everyones day is what they anticipated and even more.I will talk to you all in 2007.

I love you all


Dec 25, 2006 at 07:27 o\clock

Oral Evaluation

Mood: Not Really In One

I know I said that I wouldn't be back until after the new year but after having a conversation with my father tonight,I couldn't help but write about it.

So I've had this conversation with men my age before but I wanted to believe that their opinion was based on their age and experience or lack there of.Oral sex has played a big role in many realtionships,it's even played a role in a few of mines.It's been the cause of one of my break ups and I don't regret it.Sex is important this is clear to me but why do some allow sex to rule their relationship?Why allow something as small as oral sex ruin a relationship?Some men say if they can't get it at home they will get it somewhere else,some end the relationship because the woman will not perform oral sex on them.So the question for the rest of 2006 is,is love enough when you aren't being pleasured the way you desire?

Dec 11, 2006 at 07:13 o\clock

A Little Break

I know I'm a little behind...ok so a lot behind but I've gotten a new job and because of the holidays I've been working extremely hard, so it's been kind of hard to get online.I'll be back on track by January,I promise so until then you guys take care and I'll see you in 2007.

Nov 11, 2006 at 07:46 o\clock


Listening to: Stingy By:Lyfe Jennings

I think sex is an important factor in a relationship but it's not everything. Relationships sometimes end when one or both aren't satisfied.People tend to shy away from this subject but I know for a fact that everyone has an opinion on it,and I want to know yours.How important is sex to you?Does it matter how often you and your partner have sex?If you aren't getting it as often as you'd like would you find someone else to do what your partner won't?And if you aren't sexually satisfied are you willing to talk it out with your partner or run for the boarder?

Nov 1, 2006 at 09:26 o\clock


Mood: Thoughtful
Listening to: Good Times

How would you describe the word LOVE?

Nov 1, 2006 at 09:08 o\clock


Mood: I don't know
Listening to: In Living Color

Have you ever dated someone but you didn't have a title?You don't know if you guys are friends,boyfriend and girlfriend,or just two ships passing in the night. Why do these relationships (if you can call them that)exsist?Why do we allow them to exsist?Is putting yourself out there to see what can be worth the time and energy you put into it?Every answer to these questions lead to the same question:


Oct 27, 2006 at 11:03 o\clock

Hiding The Truth

Mood: Thoughtful
Listening to: TV

Why do parents keep their children away from the truth?

There are parents out there who would rather their children think that HIV/AIDS doesn't exsist.They'd rather their children focus on not getting pregnant.So many parents keep their children out of sex ed classes because they are afraid of what they may learn.These parents are only harming their children.

I can remember a time when my best friend and I would talk about sex and the shows we watched on TV the night before and our other friends would look at us as though we had lost our minds.Their parents didn't allow them to watch anything with profanity or a mild sex scene.What I could never understand is why they didn't want their children to watch it with them and then explain what they were watching rather than have their friends who may or may not have their facts straight teach your child everything that they know.

I don't understand the fear that parents have when real life comes into play.I don't understand why parents would want their children to be so ignorant to the world and everything that is going on around them.

My parents hid nothing from me and I am a 20 year old college student working on my degree in Psychology,I don't have a child on my hip,and I don't have a man manipulating me.When you hold my life up next to the now adults who grew up with me but were never in the know I'd say some of them got the short end of the stick.So again I ask:

Why do parents keep their children away from the truth?

Oct 27, 2006 at 10:55 o\clock

Funny How Things Change and Funny How They Stay The Same

Mood: Thoughtful
Listening to: TV

It's funny how things change but it's funny how they stay the same.I can remember thinking that rap and R&B were the only thing worth listening to.I felt like there would never be anything else worth listening to.

Now I'm a little more open my music interest range from rap,R&B,Jazz,Soft Rock, and oldies.I've changed in a major way and I know that there are a lot of other people out there who have noticed the change in themselves.

What I watch on TV has even changed now,I don't only watch music videos trying to learn the latest dance steps and the hottest song out.I'm now more open to what is out there,I'd much rather know about what can harm me and what can help me rather than how to shake my ass.

So you see the more things change the more things stay the same.A lot of things have changed about me but I am still the same person just a little wiser.


Oct 25, 2006 at 13:52 o\clock

Are You?

Mood: Sleepy but thoughtful
Listening to: I Love Lucy

When we were children and were asked what we wanted to be when we grew up and we were confident in our answer.We all knew exactly what we were going to be when we grew up.As children we didn't think that anything could get in the way of our dreams.Babbies,love,and money never even factored into our plans,it was just going to sort of happen.So here is the question:

Are you where you thought you'd be at your age?

Oct 21, 2006 at 06:20 o\clock

Inmate Love Pt.2...Forgiving Doesn't Mean Forgetting.

by: alana1986   Category: Penny For Thought

Mood: Ready To Debate
Listening to: TV

So when I wrote the entry titled Inmate Love I didn't really expect much of a response because I was just running off at the mouth.But someone did bite and I can't say that agreed with what he said.

 For someone to say that Prisoners should only be allowed to speak to each other is just a crazy comment.Why shouldn't you we give them a second chance?I do believe that you are a little biased since your father's house was robbed after he hired someone who was in prison.But you can't look at that situation and place every person who has ever stepped foot in prison into that box.This is where I become a little biased.Some of my family members have gone to prison gotten out and turned their lives around.They were given a second chance and they made the best of it.If the people who hired them thought the way that you do the few that do want to change would never get any where.If it weren't for second chances we wouldn't have half of the singers, rappers,actors,etc.That are around now.

A perfect example of someone getting a second chance is singer song writer Lyfe Jennings.I admire this man,he went to jail for ten years for arson.While in prison he used his time wisely and educated himself,he wrote songs,he sang.When he got out he went on to the Apollo Theatre and won everytime.Now he is a platium selling artist and his CD's have some of the most pwerfull I've ever heard. 

A lot of Urban Novels are written by men and women in prison,Some have even gotten out of prison and started writting novels.They are some of the best selling authors around.So my point is if you give them a chance there is that possibility that they will take advantage of it and succeed.Most of them succeed because of that hustler maintality that they picked up on the street.I have to admit I get upset when I see the street hustler doing his thing on the street and being successful at it.I get angry because they could be using their smarts to succeed in the corporate world but like my favorite quotes says:

"Sometimes you stand on the edge of a cliff just to jump, and sometimes you jump just to see what it feels like to fall."                                               


Why turn your back on someone when you can make a difference? Don't get me wrong,not everyone is trustworthy but some are.We just have to open our eyes and choose wisely who we allow into our lives.Now there is something that I agree with you about.When you talked about hiring someone who may have gotten out of prison but keeping them away from your personal possesions.I agree with that, just because you give them a second chance doesn't mean you have to be stupid about it.

I may not be able to sympathize with an ex-con but I will always emphasize with them.Women who fall for prisoners don't necessarily like outlaws,it can be a number of things that make them turn to those who are in prison.Some of the women open their eyes and see what closed minded people won't allow themselves to see.So like I said before,let's not throw all ex-cons into the same box,it's not fair.

Aug 22, 2006 at 10:03 o\clock

Is It A Crime

Mood: Thoughtful
Listening to: Comicview(TV)

Is it a crime to be single?Why is it that the when you tell someone you are single the first question they ask is:Why?What is it that people expect you you to say?I know that some people use it as an ice breaker but after a while the question get's old.Why is it so bad to be Single In The City?


Side Note:I'm starting to see that some people think that this is about me, it's not.Whenever I talk about myself I let you know.This is about any and every single person in the world who goes through this.

Aug 20, 2006 at 05:24 o\clock

Inmate Love

Mood: Not Really In One
Listening to: Lyfe Jennings(The Pheonix)

Side Note:The title is a little off,this isn't exactly about love but it can be.

I've been watching a lot of TV lately and I ran accross this show about male inmates.After the show went off I started to do research and found out there are a lot of men and women out there looking for a pen pal.I knew that this was around but I didn't know how many sites offered this.I feel like although some of them did some unthinkable things to get themselves in this situation,there are some out there who are actually trying to get their lives together.I think it's sad that it took a situation like this to happen to get them to consider turning their lives around,but I am also glad that some of them are considering it and may even get it done.So many people look down on these people just because they are in a different situation.We've got to stop looking at people like we are more than the next person.

So here is the question,should people take the time out of their lives to get into contact with an inmate and maybe make their day,even if it's just to become the voice of reason for them?


Aug 15, 2006 at 09:49 o\clock


Mood: Not Really In One
Listening to: Lyfe Jennings

I was asked the other day what my defenition of love was,my response was:

Love is an emotion,a can't eat,can't sleep,I miss you like crazy feeling. Love is missing that special someone when they are just in the other room. Love is hanging up with that someone and calling back just to hear his/her voice again,love is the feeling that funny feeling that you get when he/she looks at you.

What's your defenition of love?

Aug 15, 2006 at 09:37 o\clock

Role Reversal

Mood: Thoughtful
Listening to: Lyfe Jennings

I know it's been a mintue since I last wrote anything but sometimes I just need to sit back and watch things that are going on around me.

Ladies have you taken a look at how the roles are changing between men and women?I remember when guys would break up with girls and then we'd sit on out bed crying to our friends.Well like I said things have changed,I got a call from my bestfriend and she was telling me about a guy and a girl that we know who broke up.I asked her "how is she taking it?" I was shocked beyond belief when she told me that HE was crying.My first reaction was he needs to man up.I took some time to think about what was really going on,it was a role reversal.He was sitting on his bed crying to his friends and she moved.But I keep asking myself: when the roles switch back?


Jul 6, 2006 at 08:33 o\clock

"Men Have Been Doing It For Years!"

Mood: Thoughtful
Listening to: Tru Love By:Faith Evans

This is a line that we women use when we get caught cheating, but is it justifiable?How do you justify cheating with a line like "men have been doing it for years?"It's true men have been doing it for years but we've also been pissed at men for doing it.We've also been doing it for years it's just that now women don't seem to care that they are getting caught.Can anyone ever justify cheating?

Jul 6, 2006 at 08:28 o\clock

Treated Badly

Mood: Thoughtful
Listening to: Sex In The City

Watching TV brings a lot of ideas to mind.As you've probably guessed I was watching Tv recently.On this show, I paid close attention to the things that was going on.The guy says he loves the girl but he continues to hurt her.She takes him back only to get hurt again.Same old story right?

I just don't understand why we allow ourselves to be treated this way. Why allow someone to constantly tear you down,build you back up only to tear you down again?Why do we constantly run to our friend crying about the same guy and the same problem?Have you ever taken the time to think about how you'd feel if your friend was running to you with the same story about the same guy?You'd tell her to leave him.You'd tell her that he's not worth her time.How can we give advice someone else when we can't give it to ourselves?

Jul 4, 2006 at 05:10 o\clock

No Title Needed

Mood: Thoughtful
Listening to: Music

I was listening to a song called When Will It Be Me and in the song the girl is singing about couples she see's.They are holding hands and kissing,and showing a lot of love.The girl in the song is wondering when will it be her who is holding hands with a guy she loves or likes.

The song is a little depressing.After listening to it,I began to wonder why we try to make things happen instead of sitting back and waiting for them to happen.I'm not saying not to go after what you want I'm just saying giving it time. No amount of crying or stalking is going to make a man or woman want you. When I was younger I went through the whole When Will It Be Me stage like I was supposed to at that age but now when I look at it I realize that when I was complaining it got me no were.This means I sat in my room and cried and whinned and still I didn't get what I wanted.Now when I sit back and don't think about it,it all seems to come to me.

My point is you have the right to sit around and cry for a little while if that's how you feel but don't let that hope consume your life.Pick yourself back up and live your life like you are supposed to.Everything that is supposed to be yours will be.

Well,that's my thoughts for today so I'll talk to you guys later.


Much Love,


Jul 2, 2006 at 13:20 o\clock

Thank You

Mood: Thoughtful
Listening to: TV

I was just sitting here at my computer and I started thinking.I want to thank all of you who read my blog.I believe that writing is an outlet.I come here whenever I am going through something or just have something to say and you read it.So again I thank you all who take the time out of your day to read what I write.


"We write so we don't have to starve to relate to the subject."



Jul 2, 2006 at 13:17 o\clock

Some Of My Favorite Quotes.....More To Come!!

Mood: Not really in one
Listening to: TV

"Dream as if you'll live forever,live as if you'll die today."

"I blame her for noting but forgive her for everyting."

"Man cannot conquer the ocean until he has the courage to lose sight of the shore."

"Success takes you where character cannot sustain you."

"With great power comes great responsibility."

"Sometimes you stand on the edge of a cliff just to jump, and sometimes you jump just to see what it feels like to fall."

"There was never a night or problem that could defeat sunrise or hope."

"Racism is not an excise to not do the best you can."

"If you stand for nothing you will fall for anything."

"Life is like a coin,you can spend it any way you wish, but you can spend it only once."

"The poorest man on earth is not the one without money, but the one without a dream."

"Hope is not a plan."

"What you risk reveals what you value."

"Somedays history is silent today history screams."

"For every reaction,there is an overreaction."

"Life is not about the breaths you take,it's about the moments that take your breath away."